Power of Influence

Date: November 23, 2014

Name: Power of Influence

Presenter: Douglas Vermeeren

The ability to influence others is the most important skill people can possess. Douglas Vermeeren, the modern day Napoleon Hill, believes all successful people are using it to lead their successful financial lives. Many people are stumbled through their lives and Douglas Vermeeren has proven to help others change the way they think and communicate. Moreover, he has been featured in many media and has created many successful programs, such as The Guerrilla Marketing. He also produces the move, The Opus, and shares his knowledge throughout many of his seminars all over the world. He will reveal the key skills to help people to become more powerful and effective communicator. This seminar will benefit everyone who is looking for a chance to influence their lives towards the life of their dreams.

3 kinds of learning

Vermeeren believes power of influence starts by understand how people learn. There are three kinds of learning: emotional, procedural, and implementational. Emotional learning is when people inspire by a story that touches their emotion. Procedural learning is when there is instruction to proceed to the outcome. There is limitation because instruction restricts people from going outside of the box. Implementational learning is when people participate and experience the result. It is a combination of emotional and procedural. Moreover, implementational learning is the best way and fastest way to learn.

Words and clarity

Words can be very powerful to influence others. Words represent concept, image and reality. It can build and design the message. Therefore, words are the objective power. Sometimes words can be misunderstood and have different meaning due to limitation; therefore, in order for words to work, clarity is the key. Clarity of words can influence people’s emotions.

Vermeeren shares human influence is based on how people seek for happiness. People are happy if they are in progress towards their goals. The sense of happiness comes when people’s goals are realized. People create negative emotions is when their goals are not met their expectation. Therefore, when their expectations are clear, people can set boundary to help them realize their goals.

In business, the more influence you have, the more compensate you will get.

5 pillars of success

Vermeeren emphasizes success is built by 5 pillars. These are abundance, relationship, health, self, and spiritual.

Abundance comes from freedom, ideas and opportunities. The more influence people have, the more people they will help. The level of abundance will increase when people are influenced. Vermeeren suggests a best way for people to check abundance is to look at their bank statement.

When business improves, relationship will generally increase. When people’s expectations are met, their stress level will decrease. The health will improve. Health usually starts from within and goes outwards. When personal goals are met, people will recognize their success. This creates confidence. Furthermore, people can have their spiritual when their faith and beliefs are fulfilled.

Vermeeren wants people to balance all five pillars. People do not need to be perfect, but they must remain consistent. In addition, it is important to keep all five pillars check regularly.

Achieve goals and objectives

Vermeeren designs four questions that can help people achieve their objectives.

• Who will you need to influence?
• Where will you find these people?
• How will you influence them?
• Why would they want to be influenced by you?

All questions start from people’s within first.

Self -> Closest friends -> People met -> People who haven’t met

In order to influence others, people need to start influence themselves first. A majority of factors comes from themselves. Vermeeren believes people need to determine the ability to share an idea or concept in order to understand how they can influence other. People fail to influence others because they make it too complex. If people can make it simply, they can capture others’ attention. Therefore, the key is simplicity.

“A goal that is specific will become attainable and clear”

Human Brain

Vermeeren mentions there are three levels in human brain that helps people accept ideas. The first level is reptilian. This is the area where people are focus, hunt reproduce and fight. It is a protection for people. This level will reject ideas in human brain if new ideas or concepts come to them. The second level is mammalian, which is the area where people think about social, relationship, and peer pressure. The last level is cognitive, which helps people structure knowledge, plan and logic.

People cannot get to the next level unless the current level is satisfied. People’s brains usually try to remain constant. This means people’s brains do not know what is threat and success. Therefore, Vermeeren believes the more obsolete and irrelevant people become, the less power people have to influence.

State of Success

Vermeeren wonders if people’s bullshits are affecting people’s success. People only have one competitor, which is themselves. If bullshit is taking over state of success, people will cash out.

Bullshit is like excuse. Comfort zone creates people’s bullshits, which creates the ability to influence, which creates the state of success. Therefore, Vermeeren believes comfort zone, bullshit, ability to influence and state of success are all connected. Influence comes from within.

It is easy for people to fix other people’s mistakes than their own. Therefore, Vermeeren suggests people not to feel bad on the decision they make; instead, think about how to change them. It is often people do not accept others advice. Vermeeren recommends people to recognize their time value. This can be done by comparing the current time value with the desire time value. People will start to realize who can help them and give them advice.

3 Mode of thinking

There are three modes of thinking: meditate, creative and constructive. People starts at meditate. During meditation, people will develop creative ideas to help others. People will take these ideas and make it constructive. Furthermore, people will go back to mediate and the cycle starts again. Vermeeren believes mediate do not solve everything. The best way to get better is to help others that are softer than them.

“If you are down, you need to get busy and your brain will find the way out”

Powerful people will acknowledge errors and investigate a way to replace bad programming. In addition, poor and average people sometimes will acknowledge errors and carry on as they are doing nothing new.

Biggest enemy to business

The biggest enemy to business is when people accept “dangers do not touch”, and “not only will this kill you, it will hurt the whole time you are dying”. Vermeeren believes these two statements will prevent people from exploring and expand new ideas.

Another statement is when people believe they can figure it out by themselves or they already know it. Vermeeren believes if they figure it out already, they should already be successful. This statement shuts down every opportunity and creates the ability to lose influence.

3 ways to increase wisdom

Vermeeren indicates there are three ways to increase wisdom.

• Reflection
• Experience
• Imitate

People need to feel success before they receive success. People can achieve success by experience, which is trial and error. However, people have limited life time, so the best way is to imitate someone who has already done it before. All people need to do is copy the right blueprint and they can learn the essence.

“Ignorance is the biggest and most expensive thing in the world”

People cannot influence a closed mind

It is important to earn the right to ask. When people have closed mind, they are not prepared. In average, every 1% of improvement, there will be 7% of increase of result. By asking “What are you willing to do?” and “how committed are you?” Vermeeren shares it is not difficult to figure out what people want from their lives; in fact, it is hard to figure out what to give up to achieve the things people desire for.

Many people always say they are “going”, but there is no purpose attached. People need to know why they are doing it.

“Success is something people like to do and even if it is difficult”

Top successful people do their goals

Top successful people do not set goals. They use the law of probability. Top successful people use 3 questions to increase the chance of occurring.

• Who you need to talk to
• Where you can meet them
• Learn what you need

Therefore, Vermeeren emphasizes the key is networking. The more people meet the more better they will do.

“The quality of life is the quality of relationship”

Why are people drawn to certain people?

Vermeeren shares that people are drawn by these four principles

• Connection
• Confirm our value
• Status & Authority
• Support in our mission

When people have common interest, they will connection. When people find others who have the same priorities, they have confirmed their values. People will admire when people have certain status and authority. People will link when others have the similar mission statement. Nevertheless, people can be link if they have different mission statement because they want more understanding.

Influence grows with connection and good people bring out the goods in people. People will bring out their feeling and expectation. Vermeeren feels the problem people have usually are themselves.

Vermeeren suggests everyone to write a thank you note for people they influenced in their lives. Pride and connection are never together. Therefore, people need to let go their ego and start making connection. Connection comes from the power of influence.