Kate Muker

Date: February 9, 2015

Name: Mantalks – What women want – masculinity through a woman’s eyes

Presenters: Krystal Gabriel, Kate Muker, and Kelsey Grant

Mantalks is a developing community of men that creates possibilities to connect and engage for stronger growth. By develop strong characteristic and personalities, leaders will improve and engage stronger relationship with others. This presentation will invite three local leaders, Kate Muker, Krystal Gabriel, and Kelsey Grant, to share their views of what their expectations from masculine men. Communication is the key for leaders and leaders need to embrace their conversations in social relationships. Moreover, leaders will be able to understand what feminine are looking for from masculine and they will enhance their insights to build interactive relationships.

Experience from Krystal Gabriel

Krystal Gabriel, the Solutions Engineer from Virtus, has the passion to inspire leaders in many organizations. She helped out with the launch of Mindvalley Academy, an online university that provides leadership education for many leaders. In addition, her contributions through a blogger and speaker impact the communities with many strong messages.

When Krystal Gabriel was young, she was taught to have a balance of characteristic traits of men and women. She witnessed a personal event that believe emotional is her weakness. Nevertheless, she built up a wall by being more masculine, such as never cry in public. Her childhood was influenced by men, and in relationship, she began to become the driver of her relationships. She realized her detective wall is influencing her relationship; therefore, she began to find ways to improve her feminine side. She went to seminars to discover herself.

In Gabriel’s relationships, she studies her men in her life. She was inspired by her mentor that people who are meant to be together in any relationship will do their best to keep their relationships up. Gabriel shares she has a declaration that combines her soft and solid skills.

Gabriel believes man needs three qualities.

• Make each other better
• Be someone others are willing to learn
• Be tolerance

Gabriel understands many women still need their emotional safety net. Therefore, Gabriel suggestions in any relationship, it is important to find the balance between women and men. They need to communicate with each other to understand their agreement. Moreover, they need to invite each other to step up.

Gabriel shares the world need men who are intelligent, talent and have personality. Since everyone has their own stories, it is important to figure out if the other half is lean or repeal each other.

“Dive in and be yourself”

Experience from Kate Muker

Kate Muker, the CEO and Founder of Conscious Divas, has a strong belief that women need to discover their own authentic paths. She is featured in Vancouver Sun, and Globe and Mail based on her inspiration and empowerment with local women leaders. Moreover, her contributions lead to her passion and motivation to help local communities.

In her current 9 years of relationship, 6 years of her relationship are marriage. Kate Muker shares most of her relationships lasted 2 to 3 years. When she was 19 years old, she had a challenged relationship. She knew her partner involves crime, but her decision was driven by her emotion. She isolated her friends and deflated her life because of emotion. When she realized a voice in her heart tries to convince her that she deserves better, she stepped out of that relationship.

Muker started to do self-discovery to increase her self-worth. She learned she needs a relationship with fun and deep meaningful conversations. Money cannot buy happiness; in fact, Muker believes connection and feeling are extremely important in relationship. In her next relationship, she learned the value of friendship; however, she could not surpass the friendship. Therefore, she is on a solo trip once again.

In her current relationship, she meets her husband. She believes the journey of self-discovering will help in relationship. Muker believes there are 5 elements she believes every relationship needs. The first is relationship needs to have a commitment through emotionally and spiritually. Both men and women need to grow a path together share where they are at that moment. The second is relationship needs a strong communication. Both men and women need to be open, honest and receive to listen to others. The third is relationship has the equation of happy wife equals to happy life. Every man needs to understand what woman needs. Men need to have the desire to figure out. The fourth is relationship needs support and space. Furthermore, the fifth is to have the vision to pursue the dream in the world.

“Communication in relationship is like a window. If you throw mud on the window and it will be hard to see each side and need to wash up at the end”

Experience from Kelsey Grant

Kelsey Grant, the Relationship Coach, has the passion to people in the world to have balanced and happy relationships. Her coaching helps people to open up through a healing journey. Moreover, she connects with many women and aligned many leaders with their leadership and relationships. Kelsey Grant publishes “Sabotaged Love – The 12 Archetypes Keeping you from the love you want” that will help many people to find their space in their lives.

Kelsey Grant shares the common relationship problem theme is the unavailable capacity. In Grant’s early relationship, she admits it was her unavailable capacity and commitment that lead to the end of her most relationships. Grant went on a quest to create the habit of commitment by learning new guitar chords, upload YouTube videos and post love blogs online. She believes if she is able to show up for herself, she can show up to the world.

During Grants’ childhood, she would fall in love easily. However, most of her early relationship developed the relationship dynamic where people show up and disappear. Therefore, Grant realized she needs to look for a partner who can stand and clear to the world.

In Grant’s next relationship, she found the man who has similar interest. They are able to produce music and develop the sense of purpose in life. Since her life was surrounded by music, she believed it was necessary to connect relationship with her music. However, Grant realized music was not her life purpose and discovered her purpose was about love and help people. She started her search once again. There was a lot of ups and downs in her next relationship, but she managed to find the partner she had the connection with her life purpose.

Grant believes relationship needs emotion connection and honestly. If people want others to be honest, they must need to be honest first. It is necessary to create space in the relationship to grow. Both men and women need to be vulnerable to have personal access with each other.

“Without honest and clarity, relationship will fall apart”

Grant emphasizes love can bring everything in life alive. Both men and women need to be clear about the values and the boundaries. Relationship needs to have a purpose. Without honestly, there will be ego fighting on the stage. Therefore, Grant suggests every relationship needs these 3 principles.

• Know who you are
• Act in alignment with your mission
• Courage to ask tough questions.

Grant believes all relationship need to have maintenance and promise to listen without over react is important.

The panel

The panel believes there is no checklist for a perfect relationship; instead, people need to concentrate on feelings. If there is respect, people need to navigate. Journey can be different, but strong commitment is always required. Connection can help people to find the right partners. Clarity at the early stage is essential. The panel suggests two questions for relationship follow up.

• What is the purpose of partnership?
• What can we each bring for each other?

The panel wants people to commit to personal growth and self-love to establish more understand about others. It is important to not over react on others’ reactions; instead, people can only react if they are at the same level. Men need to show commitment and clarity by stepping into masculine role. Women expect appreciation and connection. Therefore, men need to take time to nurture the connection and activities with women that can show they are unique and exceptional.